Hey everyone, it’s Bemmy! Today, I want to share my thoughts on a topic that’s been circulating on social media—a post reminding parents not to make their children feel indebted for raising them. While I understand the sentiment behind it, I have a different perspective that I feel is important to share.
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It’s a Choice to Love Your Parents, and It’s a Choice for Parents to Love You
First off, let’s acknowledge the fact that neither children nor parents have control over who they get as family members. Millions of sperms, but it’s you they get. We cannot change the fact that as a family, we are stuck with each other, whether we like it or not. If one of us is down or even dies, our family is the first to get hurt. They could just abandon us because we’re not what they expected. We may be stubborn children and even have a million flaws. But no, they did not abandon us. They stick around, and in return, we should be grateful.
Gratitude Goes Both Ways
It’s important to recognize that parents make significant sacrifices. They prioritize our needs over their own, often putting aside their dreams to ensure we have a better future. They could spend their lives working hard to prepare for their retirement, but they choose to prioritize us instead. Being grateful means acknowledging their sacrifices and helping them when they get older.
My Journey as a Daughter
I’m also a daughter of an imperfect family, and I’ve experienced firsthand the challenges and struggles. My family didn’t have enough money to support our education fully, and we had our share of problematic attitudes among family members. However, we grew together and understood life along the way. My parents became pastors, and I became a pastor’s kid and an artist, educator, influencer, and entrepreneur (and will be more in the future). Despite our imperfections, I boldly say that I am a good example of a blessed daughter. I obey my parents, have been blessed with a good life and a promising career, and have excelled in most of my endeavors.
Quick Judgments from Young Minds
A lot of kids nowadays are quick to write these things against their parents. They are like 15 or 17 years old, very young, and have not even proven anything in their life. Saying that they are treated like their parents’ investment, they should look at themselves first and see if they are even worth it. Have they done anything awesome that could really consider them a good investment? Let’s not forget that not all investments are worth it, in terms of business. But your parents are stuck with you, believed in you, and invested their whole lives in you, without any assurance of return. It’s easy to criticize when you’re young and haven’t faced the full spectrum of life’s challenges. But as we grow older, we start to understand the depth of our parents’ love and sacrifices.
Understanding and Empathy Over Criticism
While the post I referenced encourages parents not to guilt-trip their children, it’s equally important for children to understand and empathize with their parents’ efforts. Gratitude should never be seen as overrated. It’s a vital part of family dynamics. When we appreciate our parents’ sacrifices, we cultivate a sense of responsibility and love that transcends mere obligation.
Conclusion
In conclusion, gratitude towards parents shouldn’t be seen as an overrated concept. It’s a fundamental aspect of maintaining a healthy and loving family relationship. Our parents may not be perfect, but their love and sacrifices shape who we become. Let’s be thankful and show our appreciation, not because we owe them, but because it’s the right thing to do.
Final Thoughts
Family is a gift, and that gift should be reciprocated with love, gratitude, and understanding. Instead of viewing ourselves or our parents as investments, let’s cherish the bond we share and strive to support each other in every way possible.
I love this song by Dan and Shay called “When I Pray for You” – a dad talking to God about his future child, praying that his child will be good. Even before his child was born, he is already grateful and thankful. Let’s be humble people!
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God Bless of your handworks miss🙏
You’re such a good Example to everyone like me☺️